FIGHT AGAINST TIME

No matter how modern this world becomes, but a woman will always be overlooked when it comes to power, liberty and choice of profession. And surprisingly, it is not just the world around us that has peculiar judgements for us but it starts at our homes only. Remember the last time when you didn't have to convince or should I say argue with your parents to wear your favorite dress, movie outing or a night stay at your friend's place. Surprisingly, the same parents won’t mind if their son has frequent night outs, trips, drinks and what not.

When showing off skin even at home becomes an issue of obscenity for girls, it is not a problem for the same parents when their son is comfortably watching television in undies. Though I haven’t seen the world but what I have seen so far revolves around the same aforementioned principles.

And all this happens on the name of parents concern to protect girls from any mishap. Don’t we get examined inside-out by thousands of eyes while going out and going back to home even in jeans and hijabs? Interestingly, the same parents who try to keep us protected till our-mid lives would eventually handover us to strange partners with whom we don’t even have basic understanding, forget about the love. There is nothing even wrong in it for them because it is happening from ages.

By the time we become stable in our life, we are burdened with the responsibilities of some random family because this is what girls are destined to. Is it so really? If boys can have the complete planning of their future till their retirement, why can’t we? Why we don’t have even freedom to wear want to wear and decide for how long we want to enjoy the unmarried status?

Time between 25-27 yrs is considered as the peak time when girl should get married not just against her wish but it happens without considering her stability in life. 

Whether you want to pursue study or need time to make career, you won’t be given an excuse for anything. Period between this age group then feels like a challenge for us where we want to prove ourselves so that no one slaps our face with the question-“what you’ve done in your life?”

Emotional drama of our parents often make girls compromise in their lives and those who don’t are ultimately boycotted by their families and are showcased as a bad example to the upcoming generation. I am sometimes actually confused what make our parents to do the biasness between their sons and daughters.

Is it actually their thought beliefs or the fear of society? Because many times I have realized the decisions that were against my wish by my parents were due to their biggest fear-“log kya kahenge”. Within this log, everyone from relatives to neighbours, whose name you might even don’t know would come. And see yet they make an impact on our lives.

In my case, I know my parents love me but it is just their thought process that doesn’t allow them to understand me. Right now I feel my life is on lease whose instalment I pay by working and making them realize I want to be more successful in life. But one day when their fear of log kya kahenge would empower their belief in me, the ownership of my lease life would be given to some ABC in-laws. Till then everyday is a challenge for me to prove everyone that I am not born to get married but to live my dreams. 

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